Comments on: Rated R for Language http://radicalloveproject.com/2009/05/rated-r-for-language/ To carry love into every moment, in the way of Jesus. Fri, 03 Feb 2012 18:14:56 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.4 By: The Word F-iretr-uck « Jonathan Brink http://radicalloveproject.com/2009/05/rated-r-for-language/comment-page-1/#comment-302 The Word F-iretr-uck « Jonathan Brink Sun, 13 Feb 2011 19:07:24 +0000 http://radicalloveproject.com/?p=51#comment-302 [...] friend Angela Harms joined me in this mini subversive Synchroblog.  Please visit her post: Rated R For Language. Category: Conflict, Creative, [...] [...] friend Angela Harms joined me in this mini subversive Synchroblog.  Please visit her post: Rated R For Language. Category: Conflict, Creative, [...]

]]> By: Angela http://radicalloveproject.com/2009/05/rated-r-for-language/comment-page-1/#comment-37 Angela Tue, 26 May 2009 00:52:30 +0000 http://radicalloveproject.com/?p=51#comment-37 Hi, Becca. Nice to meet you! I don't have a collar, but I know what you mean. I'll do whatever I need to to indicate that it's ok to be yourself. Not least because I'm not perfect, and people thinking they have to be perfect around me sets them up for disappointment when they discover I'm just another dumb fuck, just like them! ... Ok, that's my last "fuck" online, at least until it's called for. :) Hi, Becca. Nice to meet you!

I don’t have a collar, but I know what you mean. I’ll do whatever I need to to indicate that it’s ok to be yourself. Not least because I’m not perfect, and people thinking they have to be perfect around me sets them up for disappointment when they discover I’m just another dumb fuck, just like them! … Ok, that’s my last “fuck” online, at least until it’s called for. :)

]]> By: Becca Clark http://radicalloveproject.com/2009/05/rated-r-for-language/comment-page-1/#comment-36 Becca Clark Tue, 26 May 2009 00:20:08 +0000 http://radicalloveproject.com/?p=51#comment-36 Oh, and yes, I do use the word fuck when it's called for, although less often in such settings. But every so often that's the best word for the job (like, fuck oppression!) or it's needed to break the tension (-oops, sorry, I know you're a pastor-type. do you mind if I swear in front of you? - aw, fuck, it doesn't bother me none!). I *hate* it when people are embarrassed to behave as they normally would because I have shirts with funny collars. Becca Oh, and yes, I do use the word fuck when it’s called for, although less often in such settings. But every so often that’s the best word for the job (like, fuck oppression!) or it’s needed to break the tension (-oops, sorry, I know you’re a pastor-type. do you mind if I swear in front of you? – aw, fuck, it doesn’t bother me none!). I *hate* it when people are embarrassed to behave as they normally would because I have shirts with funny collars.

Becca

]]> By: Becca Clark http://radicalloveproject.com/2009/05/rated-r-for-language/comment-page-1/#comment-35 Becca Clark Tue, 26 May 2009 00:17:07 +0000 http://radicalloveproject.com/?p=51#comment-35 I just used the word asshole in a conversation with my congregants, and I did it intentionally. The congregants were sister and brother and they love to razz each other. And so while she was lying in the ICU and he was holding her hand and they were calling each other names to break the tension and cheer each other up, I noticed them holding back a little. I joined in the sidelines of their banter and then told a story about the first time I bantered with my husband in front of his parents (calling him an asshole), and how I immediately won the respect of my future in laws. In some families, that's just how you show you love each other; you're comfortable enough to pick on each other. My use, there in the hospital room in my full clergy role, of a swear word put them at ease, and I considered that some good pastoral care right there. It wasn't even that strange a few minutes later when I led them in prayer. We embraced the whole moment, and I was proud of all of us. Excellent post. Shalom, Becca I just used the word asshole in a conversation with my congregants, and I did it intentionally. The congregants were sister and brother and they love to razz each other. And so while she was lying in the ICU and he was holding her hand and they were calling each other names to break the tension and cheer each other up, I noticed them holding back a little. I joined in the sidelines of their banter and then told a story about the first time I bantered with my husband in front of his parents (calling him an asshole), and how I immediately won the respect of my future in laws. In some families, that’s just how you show you love each other; you’re comfortable enough to pick on each other. My use, there in the hospital room in my full clergy role, of a swear word put them at ease, and I considered that some good pastoral care right there. It wasn’t even that strange a few minutes later when I led them in prayer. We embraced the whole moment, and I was proud of all of us.

Excellent post.

Shalom,
Becca

]]> By: Angela http://radicalloveproject.com/2009/05/rated-r-for-language/comment-page-1/#comment-34 Angela Mon, 25 May 2009 21:28:59 +0000 http://radicalloveproject.com/?p=51#comment-34 Trying to understand what you mean, here. So if you see Christians sitting around swearing, it kinda creeps you out? Not sure what it means to be a steward of your words. Trying to understand what you mean, here. So if you see Christians sitting around swearing, it kinda creeps you out? Not sure what it means to be a steward of your words.

]]> By: Theresa Seeber http://radicalloveproject.com/2009/05/rated-r-for-language/comment-page-1/#comment-33 Theresa Seeber Mon, 25 May 2009 21:09:15 +0000 http://radicalloveproject.com/?p=51#comment-33 I grew up cussing, but never around my folks (who taught me all the creative ways to do it LOL) because they did not permit me to. As a new Christian in a conservative group, cussing was just not pure and we don't do it. I still think we should strive for purity, but it doesn't mean the same thing it did then. When I cussed in the privacy of my conversations with my husband, it was taboo. Not anymore, except when I get carried away. Then cussing is a bad thing because I am not being a good steward of my words. Now I am mellowing out and trying to keep it real. But I am uncomfortable with my kids cussing because they will abuse it. I kinda struggle with this post because I know it is important to be real, but would hate to see a bunch of Christians going overboard in this newfound freedom. Moderation is good you know? Balance. I grew up cussing, but never around my folks (who taught me all the creative ways to do it LOL) because they did not permit me to. As a new Christian in a conservative group, cussing was just not pure and we don’t do it. I still think we should strive for purity, but it doesn’t mean the same thing it did then. When I cussed in the privacy of my conversations with my husband, it was taboo. Not anymore, except when I get carried away. Then cussing is a bad thing because I am not being a good steward of my words. Now I am mellowing out and trying to keep it real. But I am uncomfortable with my kids cussing because they will abuse it. I kinda struggle with this post because I know it is important to be real, but would hate to see a bunch of Christians going overboard in this newfound freedom. Moderation is good you know? Balance.

]]> By: Jonathan Brink http://radicalloveproject.com/2009/05/rated-r-for-language/comment-page-1/#comment-32 Jonathan Brink Mon, 25 May 2009 16:20:08 +0000 http://radicalloveproject.com/?p=51#comment-32 Angela, without even talking about it you came to the same issue as I did. Angela, without even talking about it you came to the same issue as I did.

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